At this point, I can't show you anything because I used my System Restore and reverted back to BEFORE installing WLM. I am back to Windows Mail right now. But I can tell you that I spent a lot of time in the program trying to find things and figure out what was going on and I didn't have most of what you show on that header you showed me a pic of. There was no send/receive no matter where I clicked or whether I right or left clicked on it.
I know that I'm not being notified of a new mail client. I'm being notified that the program currently associated with that file type was being changed from Windows Mail to Windows Live Mail. I kept clicking NO on it because a long time back I had that happen once and clicked yes on it and ended up with a terrible mess. Since I had not yet made WLM my default email program, I felt it was probably prudent to click NO on that window until I knew what was going on. As it turned out I removed WLM.
I actually have it downloaded again, from a different link, but don't know if I have the courage to tackle it again or not. When I downloaded that installer the link said that it was for Windows Live Essentials 2012. I had already read that 2011 could no longer be downloaded for Vista. But when I got that Windows Update -- which FAILED -- it shows as an update for Windows Live Essentials 2011.
So I don't know what is going on with this Windows Live Essentials/Mail.